The question of how to approach women can be one of the hardest and most daunting for any man. It really doesn’t need to be though.
There are essentially two types of men in the world, those that had a successful encounter with girls when they were very young and those that didn’t. For most men, this sets up the pattern for how you interact and view women for the rest of their life. It starts off a self fulfilling cycle. If you had success in your first encounters, you tend to expect that that is how all women will behave towards you and this belief makes you more confident which in turn makes you more attractive and you never even have to ask how to approach women.
If on the other hand, your first encounter saw you blown out of the water, you will start to see approaching women as a potentially scary pastime, which is only going to make you less confident and less likely to succeed and therefore constantly wondering how to approach women.
If this sounds like you, don’t worry too much. Most men fall into this category and more importantly, the only thing you need to do to break the cycle is to understand what is going on when you approach a woman and then change your mindset and the way that you think about interacting with women.
That may sound hard but in reality, it can happen in the blink of an eye or worst case, you can ingrain the beliefs in yourself just by thinking about them a lot.
Ok… so are you going to tell me how to approach women or not?
Well, Yes, and no.
I could tell you exactly how to approach women, what to do, like – make eye contact, walk over confidently, stand at this angle and say ……
The problem is that that won’t really help you. You would still feel just as nervous and even worse, as son as she replied and said something that you weren’t prepared for, you’d turn into a gibbering idiot and bomb out.
The real secret is to think about the situation in the right way. Once you do that, it not only becomes easy to approach women, but it is even fun!
You see, at the moment, if you are wondering how to approach women, you are probably thinking about it like you can lose something and if you allow it to happen, you can; you can lose your illusions about yourself. While you aren’t being rejected, you can maintain that you could get that girl if you wanted to, but you are just busy doing something else…. Yeah, right.
So, you invest a part of yourself into the interaction and if you get rejected, you lose something. This is too much for most men and so they don’t do anything… At least they aren’t losing right?
The thing is that its rubbish! You have nothing to lose. You didn’t have her before and if she doesn’t want to talk to you, your life will go on exactly as it would have done if you hadn’t talked to her. That is except that you won’t have any regrets about what if.
Thats a great start in answering the question of how to approach women but if you are sharp (and I’m sure you are!) you will realise that all I’ve done is say…
Don’t worry about how to approach women – JUST DO IT!
That isn’t enough because you want to know exactly how to approach women.
Like I said before, I can’t give you step by step instructions because that won’t work.
Its about finding your path, which is simply what you want to do to make your mark in the world. Think of how you can use your unique skills to add value to your environment. Don’t let anyone else push you into what they think you should be doing and don’t worry about what you think you should be doing. You discover it by starting on the path, so you don’t have to decide now and stick to it, just start.
No one can tell you what you should be doing but I’ll give you a clue – It’s not sitting in your underpants, playing Xbox. Not because I don’t think you should do it, but because you will ultimately find it unfulfilling as you are not adding anything to the world.
Once you are on your path, you will realize that you it’s your reality that others must enter and they will want to because a strong purpose is a very attractive quality.
You will start to realize that most women won’t be what you want and won’t live up to your expectations. If a woman won’t talk to you, she has done you a favor and disqualified herself without you having to waste a load of time.
The key is realizing that you don’t need anything and meeting women should be fun and interesting and without risk because you really can’t lose anything.
I’ve written enough for one article but I will be putting out regular articles on this as its going to take a lot to cover it all.
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If you’d like to get on the fast track though and get all of the information at once, Id recommend that you get Secrets of the Alpha Male by Carlos Xuma.
Reading his courses changed my life and its amazing stuff.
In the meantime though, work on your mindset and the question of how to approach women will never even occur to you!