Does she mean what she says?

Most guys fail in relationships with girls and sometimes they do not understand why. This is because if the girl has called the relationship off, it is very difficult to understand why she has done so and even if she has mentioned the reasons, it is difficult to dig out the hidden meaning in those words. Basically girls and guys have a different dictionary which may have the same words but different meanings. Thus, it is best for guys to use this dictionary (which is just a hypothetical and virtual concept) so that they can understand women in a much better way.

There are many men around who really wish such a guide or dictionary really existed so that they could gain respite from searching the hidden meaning of words and digging out the hidden clue that women try giving them through very simple and regular words. The way women understand what you might say as a simple straight forward sentence is also very different. You might just mean something very simple and have no taunts behind it, but they tend to take it otherwise and then begin the series of arguments. So whether it is something that a woman is saying to you or something that you are saying to them, it definitely holds a chance of creating an argument at the end of which you are still thinking – what went wrong.

All this seems a little complicated and funny at times but that’s how it works. Hence it is best to try and take tips from your female friends or others who have a rough idea about the virtual dictionary of women. Most men will agree that talking to women is a lot of fun because you have so many different things to talk about and discuss. There is generally never a sad or dull moment when you are with them (unless you have had a fight or something). Thus it is worth taking the effort to understand what she means rather than not talking to her at all. If you know how to handle these conversations and try and understand meanings, it will be fun. Understanding them is quite challenging but you can always try it for the sake of fun times and a good relationship.

Let’s try and understand a few of these simple to say yet complicated to understand sentences. The most common phrase that you must have heard many times is “I am fine”. For men it is said when you want to say you are good and all is ok but not in the dictionary of women. Remember when she says she is fine it means nothing is OK. In fact there is something that is really wrong and you are the reason for it. This “I am fine” will actually disconnect her from you and she will just want to be alone expecting you to figure out what is wrong. Does this entire episode remind you of something similar that has happened? Sure will because this is the most common problem stemming from men misunderstanding women.

You will learn a few things in due course of the relationship but when you begin one or during the initial stage of the relation, there are many things that a guy must know. You will generally observe that most girls want a sensitive guy as their partner. This does not mean that the guy needs to be very emotional and start crying on every sad incident. It just means that he has to sensitive towards matters related to her and her feelings. So if you are very emotional and too sensitive towards anyone and everyone, she will surely not be attracted towards you. Basically women need a man that can bring stability to her life. Their life according to them is a roller coaster of emotions and problems. They want someone who can bring stability to it by being a constant support.

This is one of the most important points and every man should remember the meaning. One more example is if you have made a plan for the weekend and if your girl says that “Yeah, sure, let’s go out this weekend. Give me a call on Saturday afternoon to confirm the plan.” Your understanding will say that you call her as she said and that she is positive about coming. However that is not the case. Yours is not the only offer she may have for the weekend. Girls like to weigh their options when it comes to enjoyment and then prefer to join the group or set of people where she thinks she will have a great time. So your weekend plan is just like a backup plan. Once she has checked all the available options and she does not want to join you, it will be easier to say no on the phone and hence she asks you to call her. One simple sentence has such a deep meaning and most men will actually take ages to understand this. So if you really want her to join you, lure her with your exciting plans and the fun things you want to do instead of just asking her out for weekend.

The next and the deadliest of all is the sentence that many women often say. “Let’s just be friends” or “I’m not ready for a relationship”. It is heartbreaking to hear this and some men still keep hoping that the not ready may convert to ready if he continues to woo her. You are highly mistaken. The fact that she thinks you are just a friend means that she is not attracted to you and does not see any qualities of a future partner in you. At the same time she does not want to hurt you by giving a blunt No as an answer, but if you are hearing this, it probably means that she doesn’t really even want to be friends. Always remember that a girl who is attracted to you sexually and otherwise will never refuse your proposal. In fact she will try to get closer to you. The fact that she claims that she wants to be just friends means that she just isn’t feeling any attraction for you.

It is a point worth thinking about. What if you were attracted to a woman? Would you tell her that you want to wait for a while before you get into a relationship or that you only want to be friends? (Although, that can be a very powerful technique if used right) It is unbelievable that a man will say such a thing. For a change, in this point both men and women think the same. If you are not going to refrain from getting in a relationship if you are attracted to a woman, so is the case with women. So these typical “just be friends” statements are clear indicators that she is not interested in you and will never be. So it is not worth making efforts to woo her and then be disappointed in the end. It is best to take a clear clue right in the beginning and try to find a girl who will like you and want to be with you.

It is the truth that even if a girl has come out of an unpleasant relationship may end up sleeping with any wrong guy that comes in her way and only if she feels attracted to him. This fact is difficult to digest but it is true. Just like men, women also find it difficult to control their attraction for men. But you will realise this if you have had friend who has gone through a similar situation. If you have any female friends, you can actually take a few tips from them. They can best suggest you what your girl means at what times. Though, it is not very correct to discuss everything with friends. No matter how complicated it is to understand what she says and whether she really means what she says, you need to make the efforts or sometimes just live with it.

The easy way out to all this understanding and interpretation business is to display your strengths and confidence. Try and build attraction every time, keep the emotion and excitement in the relationship on, try wooing her often and then these arguments and “I am fine” episodes will be much rarer. It is also good to communicate and try and understand her thought process. The more you talk or listen to her, especially when she narrates instances about her friends’ relationships, you can take clues that it could happen with you too. Be open about your desires, exhibit your masculinity and always create an impression that you are not a hen=pecked male so that she does not overpower your strength. Women are good at hiding things but if you try just a little more than usual then all these problems will come to an end and you will find it much easier to communicate with your woman. Most men go through a lot of heartbreak and hard times to realise that it is necessary to understand the hidden meaning of all what women say.

Attracting Women

What is it with women that make us men so attracted? Is it their physical appearance; flowing hair, ravenous eyes, luscious lips, perky breasts, etc. Or are we attracted to their unending attitude to make us interested, vulnerable and sometimes miserable? Whatever it is, men always want to know how to attract women.

I have always been interested to know the ultimate secret to attracting women and as I had one failure to another, I gradually tried to take note of all my strategies and came up with a short list of what women need to see in a man to become attracted instantly:

• Women are attracted to confident men. No one wants a wimp; make it an effort to dress and look confident to be able to grab her attention. You don’t need to wear the latest in designer fashion for men but do consider your hygiene and especially your scent. Women have a talent in associating scents with feelings and past situations so be careful what scent you wear. I once met a girl who insisted on knowing what my perfume was and she said it reminded her of her ex.
• Women are attracted to funny men and when I say funny I mean the flirty kind of funny. Learn how to casually flirt with her to keep her interested. Like a game of cat and mouse, play with your food before you devour her after. Be careful though, flirting can be a bit dangerous. Consider the right time and place to flirt. A friend of mine landed in the ER after flirting with a girl thinking she was alone; her jealous boyfriend was just late for their date.
• Women are attracted to witty men. The art of attracting women also takes brain power; women are turned off by men who have low IQs and lacking in common sense. Women also detest men who have bodies of steel but a brain of a meathead. Don’t take me wrong but women don’t expect you to know all the names of the 44 presidents of the United States or know what the capital of the Norway is but girls have a tendency to “plan ahead”, if you get what I mean.
• Women are attracted to men who don’t mind getting dirty. She loves to see you fix her car with grease on your hands or cook with flour on your nose; these simple things somehow see the simple and down-to-earth side of a man.
• Women are attracted to charming men. Charming could mean behaved, courteous and even sensitive men. Show your “polished side” as you carry her groceries, help her out the door or volunteer to show her where to go. Women love attention and the more she gets it from you, the more she will fall into your spell.

Trust me, all of these techniques work well. When you have mastered the technique of attracting women, you may need to know how to STOP.

How to approach a girl

By far one of the most stressful thing that guyhas to learn is how to approach a girl of his dreams and how to ultimately win her heart. Meeting the girl of your dreams is a once in a lifetime chance and you would not want her to get away, would you? So how do you approach a girl and be able to win her trust as well?

One thing is for certain, not all females are alike. A strategy on how to approach a girl may work for someone while it may not even affect another. You must also know that in order to meet women, you have to understand two things: women and yourself.

First of all women are different. In order to learn about their vulnerable points, you need to really make careful research plus be patient about your ordeal. She may not appreciate you right away and may not even notice you but it does not necessarily mean that you do not exist. Take time to harness your knowledge about her likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc. Perfect your confidence to meet her to be able to gain her trust. Do not let previous experiences with women dampen your confidence; take these failures as a way to find the best strategy to use.

The next thing to do on how to approach women is to get ready. Being ready has to start from your external appearance: hygiene, hair, clothes, shoes as well as how you present or carry yourself to show how confident you are. Stand straight, keep your head high and make sincere eye contact. Speak in a well mannered tone. Keep jewelries, piercings and blings to a minimum, dress casually wear a fresh scented smell and not heavy, musky perfumes. Walk confidently and don’t hesitate to introduce yourself. Women have the instinct to tell if a man is just bluffing or not.

Do you need to use pick-up lines or flirt a little? Do what you think would be best for the situation. If she looks like a fun loving and easy-go-lucky girl then she will surely appreciate humor and some light pick-up lines. If she is mature or may be older than you, you can try flirting a little until she takes the bait and notice you. Make the first move without breaking the flirting game.

It is a sure sign that you have gained her trust or have won her heart when she responds without hesitation. Getting her phone number, buying her a drink or a promise of another date are also perfect ways to signal that your approach worked. Techniques on how to approach women can also help you on how to approach or meet women other than your dream girl. You can learn to take advantage of this situation by advancing to another level by asking her out, taking her home and who knows; someday you may also ask her to go steady.

How to ask out a girl

Planning on asking out a girl for a date? Don’t be worried; most men are horrified in the thought of rejection and are also looking for ways on how to ask out a girl. Rejection is one of man’s oldest fears. He may fear rejection in many ways but being turned down by the opposite sex is the worst kind. Here are some tips on how to ask out a girl and succeed:

1. Plan ahead – if you are looking forward for the prom, a party or any type of special gathering, plan ahead so you won’t have to worry about being rejected. Plan all the things that you need like gradually giving the girl hints that you want to ask her out or maybe setting the mood before you finally pop the question. As any fool-proof plan goes, you need to think of the right time and place to ask her out.
2. Reduce distractions – ask her when she is level headed and alone. If you two are already friends, pop the question when you two are alone but if you have never met her before, find the best time when she is sure to be alone and not with her friends or family.
3. Availability – is she single and ready to mingle? You have to BE SURE that she is to reduce total rejection. Do careful research, she may be alone or in the company of friends most of the time but it does not always mean that she is available.
4. Common grounds – find things that both of you have in common. Does she frequent the gym, a bar or does she go to the park? When you establish a common ground between the both of you, you will be able to confidently ask her out.
5. Find her weakness – does she love flowers, chocolates or cute animals? Find her weakness and lavish her with gifts that she will truly adore to make her say yes.
6. Be confident – avoid asking someone to do it for you. Women love confident and men who love to take on a challenge. Do you know the true story of a soldier who asked actress Mila Kunis to the Marine Corps. Ball? He was stunned to find out that she actually accepted the invitation since it was just a one shot that he never thought possible.
7. Believe in magic – women are suckers for believing in fate, mystery, magic and signs. You can take this to your advantage and find out her horoscope sign to tell whether you are compatible or not. The power of magic and mystery also attracts most women and if you want to take this as an opportunity, act mysterious and prolong her agony in waiting for you to ask her out.

As you get the guts to finally tell her how you feel and ask her out in the process, remember that there is a big possibility of being let down but don’t lose hope; there is plenty of fish in the wide open sea.

Approaching Women

I was not so thrilled about approaching women by the time I needed to in high school. Women seem to be another species from another planet. Apart from my mom and my sister, I dreaded the time when I had to approach a female classmate for a school project, a dance and the worst, a date for the prom. Why do men like me have such a huge fear of approaching women?

There is a condition called gynophobia which is the term for the abnormal fear of women. This may sound weird but this fear of women may root from a social phobia or a social anxiety disorder. There is also an unusual fear of beautiful women called caligynephobia or venustraphobia which can cause males to become anxious and fret over the fear of meeting and being surrounded by beautiful and desirable women. Knowing that the fear or anxiety that I felt was documented in the pillars of science plus the knowledge that I was not alone, I sought to find the remedy for it.

As many psychiatrists and authors of the mind when it comes to fear said: the best way to overcome any fear is to face it head on. My fear of approaching women was affecting my school work, my social skills as well as when I had to go schedule for my first job interview. I had to find the best way to deal with my fear.

In an effort to start facing my fears, I decided to go to places where there are several women that were not a threat to me. I went with my sister to a relative’s wedding and I felt better knowing that MOST of these women are just relatives that I have never seen before. I started to feel the chill when beautiful bridesmaids began to complement me on my tux (I was not that bad looking either). But later that evening, I had a great time chatting with one bridesmaid who ended up giving her phone number.

After a successful evening, another chance to face my fear of approaching women took place. I was invited to join a karaoke jam with my friends and of course together with their girlfriends that I felt comfortable with. I was caught off guard when I found out that I had to deal with “non-friend” girls on the side. They were cute but instantly I was so anxious to talk and even sing. After much coaxing, I was finally able to strike a conversation with one blonde and we ended up singing the entire night. She even complemented on how great my singing voice was!

Facing my ultimate fear of approaching women and even beautiful women actually paid off. I still feel the jitters knowing that there is a beautiful girl to pop out of nowhere but I guess I have to live with that possibility. I would like to see myself free from this fear of approaching women soon but I am really thankful that I never lost interest in facing my fears head on.

Funny pick up lines

They sure are! Social experts figured out that the funnier the better. Girls are a sucker for romance and when the opposite sex is giving the signs, it could be flattering as well as rewarding. Females also love fun and when men joke around, it could be sign that he is confident about himself. Just what is in funny pick-up lines that make women gravitate towards you?

Pick-up lines may be romantic, serious, sometimes overly aggressive, cheesy or sometimes they could just be downright funny. If you want to learn some funny pick-up lines, here are some you can try tonight and see how far you can get:

1. Aside from being sexy, what do you do for a living?
2. If you were a booger, I‘d pick you right away!
3. Ok I’m here, wish granted! Now for the second wish?
4. I’d say that you are the hottest thing that ever happened since sunburn!
5. I wish I were your lipstick and stay on your lips all day long.
6. This morning I woke up and thought I was gay and then I met you.
7. Are you a parking ticket? You look like you have the word FINE written all over!
8. Have you seen my phone number? I lost mine! Can I have yours?
9. Hi! My name is NOT Elmo but you can certainly tickle me anytime you want!
10. Are you a broom? Cause you just swept me off my feet!
11. Just want to tell you that Cupid called. He told me to tell you to give my heart back!
12. Come here! You have been a bad girl! Go to my room!
13. Hi! Are you currently taking applications for a boyfriend?
14. I think I must have died and gone to heaven!
15. Eww! Did you just fart? Because you just blew me away!
16. Are you Gatorade cause I feel so thirsty just looking at you!
17. Are you a library book? I just want to check you out!
18. You must be diarrhea ‘cause I just can’t hold you in!
19. If I had the chance to rearrange the alphabet, I would put U and I together!
20. Did the sun came up at night or did you just look at me?
21. Hi, I didn’t know that McDonald’s had a new burger called McGorgeous!
22. I’m lost; can I come home with you?
23. You know you look beautiful today, just like every other day of the year?

There are more funny pick-up lines you can try in dedicated sites online or you can try making one yourself. It’s easy to invent one; just think of an object or situation and associate the girl you are trying to meet. When a girl bites and laughs or smiles at your pick-up line, then it is time to go for the kill. But if she doesn’t, then it’s time to make some adjustments and retreat!

Get Laid Tonight

Do you want to get laid tonight? You and about a billion men and women around the world tonight also do and regardless if you are married or not, it can be frustrating to think of getting it on when your partner seems to think the opposite. How do you send signals to you partner that you want to get laid tonight?

• Old and boring routines to get your partner interested in having sex are maybe tiring him or her down. Experiment on something new and catch her off guard. Take her someplace else instead of the usual sex before sleep routine. Take her to a motel, to a late night movie or why not get romantic and adventurous at the same time and do it at the beach?
• Dress to get laid tonight. Dress your part as well as send your partner a lacy underwear or how about a trip to the lingerie department of your local shop. Tell her that you want to see her in these tonight and for sure that you will have the best night ever.
• Do you know that eating is a kind of indirect flirting? Eat desserts slowly and try to lavish cream over your mouth. Eat vegetables and fruits seductively and see how he reacts. Do a little footsie and massage him under the table, you tow may never have to wait home to get laid tonight.
• Is he tired down at work? Does he bring his work home? Send him or her provocative emails or have a live video chat with him wearing sexy lingerie or wearing nothing. This will instantly make him wild for sure and can’t wait to finish what he’s doing to get laid tonight.
• Do you have a tight schedule? Do you even have to schedule sex and relaxation for the weekend? Then make this weekend the most unforgettable and spend a day off from work, kids and family matters. You two deserve some pampering and massage to release tension and stress; when you two are finally relaxed, you will surely have time to consider getting laid.,
• Give him a massage or invite him to take a shower or bath with you. If he is in the shower, then slip in to give him a back rub or even more. For sure he won’t be able to wait to get you in bed to get laid.
• Is he burning the midnight oil again? Give him a quick massage and help him relax by offering to be with him as he works at home. Be a “quiet distraction” and give him flirtatious glances that you want to get it on.
• In a party or in a gathering, flirt with him and make suggestive movements as you dance, mingle and even meet family. He will truly appreciate your daring moves to turn him on. If you just can’t wait to get laid tonight then tell him that you want him now; you will be surprised how much he wants you as well.

Flirting tips

Flirting is an art; it is a gift of being confident and sometimes a tool to be able to strike a conversation. Flirting is not at all bad, it can be used as a means to flatter, create a less stressful environment to meet people or be a way to get to know the opposite sex better.

There are many ways to flirt. You can be funny, romantic, cheesy and even downright adoring when you flirt a little. However, flirting must be done at the right place and at the right time. Here are some popular techniques that you can use tonight:

• Sit alone, this is a surefire way to plan you tactics and find a way to flirt with someone tonight. Being alone creates an air of confidence which a man or a woman may not be able to resist.
• As you spot a likely target, make repeated eye contact. Try to focus your attention to her eyes and when you have succeeded getting her attention, revert your gaze back. If you wear glasses, look over them as you stare. You can also try the asymmetrical position by looking over your shoulders to send signals that you are interested.
• Dress to impress. Dressing in itself is a way of flirting with women’s minds. Wear seductive outfits revealing your best physical features like a nice round bottom, well-formed abs or how about a muscular physique that can be flattering in a neutral colored shirt. Wear fewer accessories like blings, earrings and piercings that can sometimes turn a woman off.
• Eating is another way to flirt without uttering a word. Eat a small piece of fruit, slowly dip it in cream or just take small bites to savor the flavor. You may eat pastries and even slurp pasta which can send messages even from across the room.
• Flirt with her gal pals first then zero in on her after you have made her friends interested. This can make you look confident even in the company of strangers which could instantly spark her interest.
• Women often adore men who are conscious about their figure but not to the point of becoming too vain. This is why most women love to find and flirt with men at the gym. Try helping a girl out if you happen to spot her for the first time at the gym. You may also try assisting her doing workout sessions and while she lifts heavy weights. For sure she is also flirting with you as you help her out!
• Just by being you is probably the best flirting tip ever for men. Just do the usual stuff you do like play basketball, swim, mow the lawn, be involved in the community and even volunteering are just easy tactics to flirt with women’s minds. Girls love men who are active, influential and are available to help others but be sure to find time to flash a flirty smile as she passes by!

How to Flirt With Women

It seems like some people were born to become natural flirts. Other people are scared of flirting because they think they don’t have the faculties to attract the opposite sex. Plus, some people think that flirting is not necessary. This is absolutely wrong. Flirting is a must in social interaction because that’s how you spark attraction with the opposite sex. No matter how shy or reserved you are, you have to learn how flirting with a woman is done. Flirting skills are important in establishing relationships, whether it’s for work or fun. That’s the reason why a lot of men these days want to learn how to flirt with women.

How to Flirt With Women: How to Meet Women

The answer to the question of how to flirt with women is simple: go out and explore. The only way to meet women is to put yourself out there. Women don’t normally approach men readily. Although women nowadays have no qualms of making the first move, it remains an unwritten rule that men should make the first move. You have to put yourself in places where the women that you are interested in usually flock. It’s plain and simple.

How to Flirt with Women: How to Approach a Woman

The first step is always the hardest. One thing that you have to remember is that you can’t be tense in approaching women because that’s going to make them uncomfortable too. You can only be successful with your flirting if you show confidence to the woman. It’s confidence, not cockiness. If you present yourself comfortably, chances are the woman will also be comfortable with you. You shouldn’t overanalyze your lines as well because that will reveal your uneasiness. Have a few topics in mind but don’t spew out lines. Most of all, make eye contact but don’t stare.  

How to Flirt With Women: How to Flirt With Older Woman

Many men are intimidated by the thought of flirting with an older woman but really, it’s not such a huge challenge. One thing that older women generally like in a man is sensitivity. Obviously, the object of your affection has experienced more things that you have. An older woman appreciates a youthful outlook in life but don’t confuse this with immaturity. Also, you should do well to stay away from age jokes, at least when you’re just starting to get to know each other. Most of all, don’t make up lies just to catch her attention. Women have naturally strong instincts that get stronger with age.

How to Flirt With Women: Dealing With a Shy and Reserved Woman

Shy women can be a bit of a challenge because it’s difficult to detect if she’s just shy or she doesn’t like you at all. The key to successfully flirting with shy women is extra sensitivity and patience. Naturally, you have to be the one to do all the talking at first. Don’t ask questions with one answer to get her to open up more. Stay casual and light, avoiding politically-charged questions or topics involving religion and race. Be careful with the body language too. Don’t frighten her by becoming touchy right away.

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Picking up women

Picking up women can be a lot harder than you imagine. It is hard simply because women can be very choosy. They do not just go for guys who have good looks, they go for guys who posses something special. If you are wondering what these special things are, then you will have to continue reading to find out. If you want to pick up women fast you need to know the proper actions and the right words. Below are some helpful tips you can apply to pick up women successfully.

Golden rules in picking up women

• Show your interest – Before picking up women, you need to show some interest firsts. You can show it by simply smiling. When you smile to someone, it automatically gives a signal that you like her. So if she smiles back, then there is a high chance that she likes you too.
• Make your move – After showing some interests, it is now time to approach her. Once you have assessed the situation and you think she is also interested, it is important to make a quick move and do not hesitate. In picking up women, timing is everything. That is why it is vital not to waste any time.
• Be upfront – Do not beat around the bush. Just make a direct approach and act casual. You do not need your cheesy pick up lines when you are picking up women. Most of the women nowadays want men who can speak intelligently and can express themselves well. Besides when you approach a woman, she already knows that you are hitting on her. So there is no point to speak about non-sense things.
• Have fun – If you are asking on how to attract women fast? The answer is simple, be natural and be happy. Women do not like men who have negative vibes. They want someone who is fun to be with. They want someone who makes ordinary moments become extraordinary. It may sound complicated but just always remember, be fun.
• Buy her a drink – When picking up women, it is important to always show your best foot forward. So if you are in a club or a coffee shop, you can offer her a drink. Ask her what drink she wants or you can also suggest a drink for her. Either way, the bottom line is if you want to end up with a girl, then be nice and give her a drink.
• The final move – After doing all of the things above, it is now time to make your last move. This is the time where you have to seal the deal. After having a conversation with her and you think the flow of conversation went well, then you can now ask her to go out. Make sure to ask politely and do not show any signs of expectations. This way she will feel more comfortable and less pressure.

The tips above on how to pick up a woman are only some of the things you should remember. If you want to learn more you can always look online. But remember, first impression lasts. So it is always best to exude an appealing personality when picking up women.